Why It’s Good For The Soul To Be Happy In Your Own Skin

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At some point in our lives, we go through the motions of feeling unsure about ourselves. This causes us to doubt how we feel in our own skin. We then wish we could be like others. The reality is far from this.

For many years, I was stuck in a vicious cycle when I was battling with a low degree of self-worth, negative thinking and a real lack of self-love. I could not navigate myself around these issues, which made it difficult for me to look introspectively. If I were aware earlier about these issues, I would have made the necessary change. Our society pressurises us to be a certain way and this ultimately makes us feel inadequate when we are unable to measure up. However, we have the power to step away from these outside influences. At the end of the day, each one of us perceives life in a different way. The majority of the time, we perceive life through a distorted lens.

We do not realise how much energy we spend and lose by measuring up our self-worth against that of others. The moment you become comfortable and happy in your skin, you will feel less of a need to compare. We are all unique in our individual skins. This makes us who we are. Just writing this makes me reflect on the time when I desperately tried to impress people. I did this almost to the point where I became exhausted. Social media sites are a curse to those who are not comfortable in their own skin, since they view life via what they see on these sites.

I did not realise that for most of my life, I had all of the tools inside me. It’s just that I never addressed them. Being happy with who you are in your own skin also correlates with getting to know yourself.

 

Look out for you

One of the very first things you must do is to look out for you, since you are living for you and no one else. Do not neglect yourself, because this will make it challenging for you to appreciate yourself. I have been there myself and it’s not a good feeling if you do not put your needs first. Your quest for being happy for yourself will remain a constant struggle.

 

Make friends with yourself

Whilst reading this, you might think, why would I want to befriend myself? Well this is a very good point to raise! The relationship one has with ourself sets the tone for all the others. We identify aspects of ourself, which we may not ever have known before. If I were to look back, I wouldn’t have wanted to be my friend. I was not happy and I projecting the worst of myself. However, now I feel very comfortable with myself so I would befriend myself. It’s all about good vibes now!

 

Focus on things which make you feel good

Do you enjoy reading or playing music? These are two activities out of many others. Little do we know that when we do things which make us happy, this reflects a lot about us. When we decide to do activities which we feel good about, this shows that we are doing what is good for us and not what others want. We have a tendency to say yes to taking part in activities which do not make us feel good, because we are afraid to say no. When we face this, it shows a reflection of how we are truly feeling. In some of my friendships, I went along with activities which I didn’t like because of the way I viewed myself.

 

Learn to appreciate yourself

We are all individual and each one of us has something unusual about ourselves. We should learn to love these characteristics about ourselves and embrace them rather than suppress them. This makes us who we are and will help you appreciate yourself. If someone tells you something which they do not like about you, this is a reflection of them since they do not appreciate themselves. Avoid seeking validation from others. Since this is very short lived and in the long run this is not good for you! I remember being told that I had this self deprecating trait and agonized over it. This made me rather sad so I tried to change in order to be accepted. Never do this. If they do not like it, just ignore them and continue on with your life.

 

Reduce the need to think too much about others’ thoughts of you

When I have focused too much of my energy on what others thought of me, I slowly came to the conclusion that not everyone will view you in the way you would like. To be honest, there is nothing you can do about this. This is a fact of life! These feelings of self-doubt stem from the perceptions which we hold of ourselves. In order to move forward, just be you as there is only one you!

 

To round off, uplift your soul rather than pump it down. Aim to be happy with you and enjoy yourself and what you can bring to this life. Preserve your energy and remember what is yet to come and not what has been!

 

By Caroline Peart

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Know your energy

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Ever wondered why things are not going the way you would like them to? I know this feeling since I only started addressing this rather recently. I always wondered why things in my life went pear-shaped. When you wake up in the morning, you make a choice about which feeling you wish to adopt for the day. This feeling dictates your mood for the day, but you can change this.

We can go through our lives not realising the impact our energy has on others. If you show feel-good vibes around other people, then this will bring them closer to you. But how can this be achieved?

Raising your level of awareness and consciousness would be a good start. Since the sooner you start understanding these two aspects, you will be able to relate to why certain things keep happening in your life.

You can change your perception of life, as only you can generate this vision and no one else. Why do we get so caught up in a certain vision? This is due to the fact that we expect life to be a certain way. But the reality is far from this this.

There are incidents in life, which we have no control over. The best thing you can do is accept and forgive. We cannot spend our days seeking answers if they are never going to come. We have all been a victim of this before.

My advice is that when you see the signs, do not get worried just aim to process and move on accordingly. Once we become more aware of different energy levels then this will be an indication for us.

 

Why do we not pay attention to energy levels?

We have a tendency in our lives to not address what is going on inside ourselves. This ultimately makes us unaware of what we are going through. Our behaviours are aligned with our emotions. Fear and judgement can prevent us from identifying our own faults. In the end, we blame others for our own mistakes. It is important that we do not get so caught up in the thoughts that others may have of us. All people perceive in the way they would like but should this bother us? No, not really.

Other peoples’ thoughts of us are only a reflection of their own. However, the more you tune into yourself, the easier it will become to block out these thoughts.

 

Below are 7 ways which can help you to raise your energy level:

 

Meditation

This is one of the best ways to tune into yourself. I never used to meditate until very recently. After having been advised to take it up, it really does work. The reason why I never got involved in meditation was because I was unable to see the benefits. There are times in life where you have to give things a go. Regarding meditation, you only have to dedicate at least 10 minutes a day. I highly recommend meditating in the morning.

 

Listening to a feel good song

After I meditate, I put on a song which makes me happy. This then brings up the energy level even higher. Also, try to loosen up when you are listening to the song as this generates all the feel-good vibes.

 

Sharing humour

This can also raise the energy level. Cracking a few jokes can put us in a great mood too.

 

Declutter your life

Living lighter can you help you to understand your thoughts better. If we live in a mess, then we are less likely to view our thoughts from a point of clarity. This is like closing one chapter and making room for the next one.

 

Practice forgiveness

We all have a tendency to hang on to past events, which drag us down instead of lifting us up.

 

Take responsibility for your actions

For a long time, I avoided not taking control of my life, which led to me making a number of reckless decisions. I realised that I was approaching these situations from a level of low energy. Note that you cannot avoid not taking control of your life. The moment you take responsibility, your energy levels will increase.

 

Becoming mindful of your thoughts

Identifying the positive from the negative will help you to make the most out of your days. I know it’s easier said than done but it will help you to focus better. Focusing on the positive is a great way to filter out the thoughts which bring your energy levels down.

 

All of these tips above can act as guidance to help you achieve the maximum energy vibrations. We all want energy bliss in our lives. Being more mindful will enable us to get there.

 

By Caroline Peart

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Why it’s better to be in control of your emotions

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At some point in our life we have been reckless with our emotions, often throwing caution to the wind. We are also less likely to address our feelings and actions, meaning we make the same mistakes again and again. Eventually, this can cause us to have a breakdown and be in a period of stasis since in such a situation we don’t know how to proceed further. I have had my share of misfortune and pain as a consequence of not always being mindful of my emotions. The interesting fact is, we become less immature once we understand why we behave in certain ways.

If we do not understand our emotions then they can get the better of us. Accept that it is ok to feel sad, but realise that you will come out of it as it is only an emotion and you have the choice to change this thought.

We also have a higher chance of getting too attached to others when we fail to accept ourselves. This causes us to seek acceptance in others. Also, a lack of confidence causes us to react strongly to the most trivial things.

It is important to address our mistakes so we can change and evolve. At the end of the day, we would like to build deep and meaningful relationships with people, but with a higher level of awareness, we will be able to better maintain them.

Focus on the following areas to help you understand your emotions better;

 

Stop running away or escaping from your thoughts

You will need to address them to prevent them from growing into a mountain from a molehill. If we learn how to manage them then we can avoid overreacting and mismanaging.

 

Identify the reasons behind your emotions. For example, what causes you to feel sad?

Find the trigger, which causes you to feel this type of emotion. Unresolved past events can prove to be reasons for us to respond in certain ways. I know for myself, I had not forgiven what had happened. So I would be easily triggered and end up in an emotional mess. The fact is that you cannot change what has happened but you can accept it.

In life, accept that events may not go the way you had hoped. This does not mean that you have failed. So please do not misunderstand.

 

Write down your emotions

It can be quite amazing how writing down your emotions can benefit oneself. Some of us are better at expressing our emotions by writing them down than verbally. Truth be told, this is me. When I express myself by writing down my emotions, I feel like I am releasing any built up tension. It is not wise to bottle up feelings and emotions. I highly recommend trying this and then reading them back to yourself to process all internal pain and trauma.

 

Take a step back and review

Instead of diving head first into a situation, try listening to the other person’s thoughts. Put yourself in their shoes. This can help you respond accordingly.

 

Surrounding yourself with positivity

People with negative energies can rub off onto you. In order to help you move forward, be around people with a positive attitude. This will be a good start to encourage you to begin thinking in a more uplifting way. Taking up an activity which you will derive pleasure and satisfaction from will help you to generate positivity.

 

These are some of the ways, which you can adopt to help you on your way to better controlling your emotions. The sooner you start, your life will become more enjoyable and grounded.

 

 

By Caroline Peart

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