Time To Start Being Bold

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You are out one night with a group of friends and you see someone who you like. They start to approach your direction, but you scuttle the other way, since you do not know what to say. The next day, you ponder over the fact why you struggled to pluck up the confidence to say hello. In this case, fear was a major factor and you pre-conditioned your thoughts to assume you were not good enough. Yesterday, I saw someone who I liked, but I didn’t go for it. Later on I thought, ‘come on Caroline, be bold!’ In life, we have nothing to lose and all to gain. If you do not receive the response you were hoping for, take away the lesson instead.

This scenario is a classic example and a lesson for many. We tend to defeat ourselves before we have even begun. In doing so, we actually prevent any life progressions. When we do not adopt bold behavior, we miss out on living life to the full, since we focus too much on the areas which hold us back. The scary fact is that the clock does not slow down for us, but we need to move with it. We all have got used to a certain way of living, which causes us to remain in our comfort zone. Life is too short to stay within the good old comfort zone. There are times when we should put ourselves on the edge.

 

Sending an email to yourself to let go

Ever thought of sending an email to your hesitant self and expressing your true thoughts? Instead of going after what we really want, we listen to Sir or Lady Hesitant who conflicts us further. We then remain one step back and one step forward. But one of the keys towards being bold is shutting out this feeling. Approach situations head on. If you see an opportunity which would be a great match, just go for it! Want to make peace with a certain someone? Then follow through.

 

Move the comfort zone from under you

This is the perfect time to try something new, which you can do for yourself. Pull open the curtain and dive in. Yes, this makes us vulnerable or afraid, but what better time to learn how to manage these feelings. When we are learning how to be bold, it is also an opportunity to get to know oneself better. By discovering how to be bold, we want to explore what is holding us back. If cracks appear, do not freak out as this is normal. Accepting your faults will help you move forward. I am in the process of doing this and it’s very beneficial.

 

Learn from the best

When developing the ability to become bold, finding an inspirational source can help you better understand yourself and this can be moulded into your daily life. The moment you start acting bold, your circumstances will change.

 

Why you just gotta say NO

Bold people are not afraid to say NO. If something does not feel right, you do not have to hang in there. By saying No, you are setting a boundary for yourself and others. The more you stick by this will reinforce who you are as a person.

 

Stick with what you want

Do not back down. Continue on the road you have chosen. Stand by your goals and follow through. Boldness makes sure, you do the things, you decide to do. Don’t let fear interfere with this.

 

Be a risk taker for once

At some point in our life, we should do something out of the ordinary. By taking a risk, we rattle ourselves and live on the edge. This helps us identify what our limits are and aspects about ourselves which we did not know before.

 

Asking for help is not a weakness

We all have tended to back away from asking for help, since we do not want to be judged. However, seeking help is not a bad thing. It’s a sign of strength. When we are comfortable with ourselves, then we become less afraid to show our real selves.

 

Speak your mind

Bold people are not afraid to speak their mind. Stand your ground and speak up. This can be a very gratifying experience. At the end of day, it’s your opinion which matters the most to you.

 

Walk with resilience

The challenges which come our way,require us to wear a mental armor. Do not let any little incident knock you down. Remember to stand tall and think of who you are. We have to conquer our battles and continue on.

 

Be prepared, but conquer your life with eyes open. Any incident you face will have a lesson behind it, which you can reflect upon.

 

By Caroline Peart

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Why it’s better to be in control of your emotions

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At some point in our life we have been reckless with our emotions, often throwing caution to the wind. We are also less likely to address our feelings and actions, meaning we make the same mistakes again and again. Eventually, this can cause us to have a breakdown and be in a period of stasis since in such a situation we don’t know how to proceed further. I have had my share of misfortune and pain as a consequence of not always being mindful of my emotions. The interesting fact is, we become less immature once we understand why we behave in certain ways.

If we do not understand our emotions then they can get the better of us. Accept that it is ok to feel sad, but realise that you will come out of it as it is only an emotion and you have the choice to change this thought.

We also have a higher chance of getting too attached to others when we fail to accept ourselves. This causes us to seek acceptance in others. Also, a lack of confidence causes us to react strongly to the most trivial things.

It is important to address our mistakes so we can change and evolve. At the end of the day, we would like to build deep and meaningful relationships with people, but with a higher level of awareness, we will be able to better maintain them.

Focus on the following areas to help you understand your emotions better;

 

Stop running away or escaping from your thoughts

You will need to address them to prevent them from growing into a mountain from a molehill. If we learn how to manage them then we can avoid overreacting and mismanaging.

 

Identify the reasons behind your emotions. For example, what causes you to feel sad?

Find the trigger, which causes you to feel this type of emotion. Unresolved past events can prove to be reasons for us to respond in certain ways. I know for myself, I had not forgiven what had happened. So I would be easily triggered and end up in an emotional mess. The fact is that you cannot change what has happened but you can accept it.

In life, accept that events may not go the way you had hoped. This does not mean that you have failed. So please do not misunderstand.

 

Write down your emotions

It can be quite amazing how writing down your emotions can benefit oneself. Some of us are better at expressing our emotions by writing them down than verbally. Truth be told, this is me. When I express myself by writing down my emotions, I feel like I am releasing any built up tension. It is not wise to bottle up feelings and emotions. I highly recommend trying this and then reading them back to yourself to process all internal pain and trauma.

 

Take a step back and review

Instead of diving head first into a situation, try listening to the other person’s thoughts. Put yourself in their shoes. This can help you respond accordingly.

 

Surrounding yourself with positivity

People with negative energies can rub off onto you. In order to help you move forward, be around people with a positive attitude. This will be a good start to encourage you to begin thinking in a more uplifting way. Taking up an activity which you will derive pleasure and satisfaction from will help you to generate positivity.

 

These are some of the ways, which you can adopt to help you on your way to better controlling your emotions. The sooner you start, your life will become more enjoyable and grounded.

 

 

By Caroline Peart

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