Time To Start Being Bold

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You are out one night with a group of friends and you see someone who you like. They start to approach your direction, but you scuttle the other way, since you do not know what to say. The next day, you ponder over the fact why you struggled to pluck up the confidence to say hello. In this case, fear was a major factor and you pre-conditioned your thoughts to assume you were not good enough. Yesterday, I saw someone who I liked, but I didn’t go for it. Later on I thought, ‘come on Caroline, be bold!’ In life, we have nothing to lose and all to gain. If you do not receive the response you were hoping for, take away the lesson instead.

This scenario is a classic example and a lesson for many. We tend to defeat ourselves before we have even begun. In doing so, we actually prevent any life progressions. When we do not adopt bold behavior, we miss out on living life to the full, since we focus too much on the areas which hold us back. The scary fact is that the clock does not slow down for us, but we need to move with it. We all have got used to a certain way of living, which causes us to remain in our comfort zone. Life is too short to stay within the good old comfort zone. There are times when we should put ourselves on the edge.

 

Sending an email to yourself to let go

Ever thought of sending an email to your hesitant self and expressing your true thoughts? Instead of going after what we really want, we listen to Sir or Lady Hesitant who conflicts us further. We then remain one step back and one step forward. But one of the keys towards being bold is shutting out this feeling. Approach situations head on. If you see an opportunity which would be a great match, just go for it! Want to make peace with a certain someone? Then follow through.

 

Move the comfort zone from under you

This is the perfect time to try something new, which you can do for yourself. Pull open the curtain and dive in. Yes, this makes us vulnerable or afraid, but what better time to learn how to manage these feelings. When we are learning how to be bold, it is also an opportunity to get to know oneself better. By discovering how to be bold, we want to explore what is holding us back. If cracks appear, do not freak out as this is normal. Accepting your faults will help you move forward. I am in the process of doing this and it’s very beneficial.

 

Learn from the best

When developing the ability to become bold, finding an inspirational source can help you better understand yourself and this can be moulded into your daily life. The moment you start acting bold, your circumstances will change.

 

Why you just gotta say NO

Bold people are not afraid to say NO. If something does not feel right, you do not have to hang in there. By saying No, you are setting a boundary for yourself and others. The more you stick by this will reinforce who you are as a person.

 

Stick with what you want

Do not back down. Continue on the road you have chosen. Stand by your goals and follow through. Boldness makes sure, you do the things, you decide to do. Don’t let fear interfere with this.

 

Be a risk taker for once

At some point in our life, we should do something out of the ordinary. By taking a risk, we rattle ourselves and live on the edge. This helps us identify what our limits are and aspects about ourselves which we did not know before.

 

Asking for help is not a weakness

We all have tended to back away from asking for help, since we do not want to be judged. However, seeking help is not a bad thing. It’s a sign of strength. When we are comfortable with ourselves, then we become less afraid to show our real selves.

 

Speak your mind

Bold people are not afraid to speak their mind. Stand your ground and speak up. This can be a very gratifying experience. At the end of day, it’s your opinion which matters the most to you.

 

Walk with resilience

The challenges which come our way,require us to wear a mental armor. Do not let any little incident knock you down. Remember to stand tall and think of who you are. We have to conquer our battles and continue on.

 

Be prepared, but conquer your life with eyes open. Any incident you face will have a lesson behind it, which you can reflect upon.

 

By Caroline Peart

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Don’t Hang On To Your Ego

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Have you been through event which you just cannot move past? Do these thoughts constantly go round and round in your head? You feel like you are in a never ending vortex and the toxicity is sickening. It is generating more pain and suffering for you rather than the other person.

For the past few months, I have found myself just circling and moving back and forth. It’s quite simply exhausting and stressful. I am still processing some relationships, which came to an abrupt end and one where I have no clue what the current status is. Nonetheless, I have been dwelling and constantly drained! Someone the other day said to me, ‘just get over it, she clearly doesn’t want to know you’. Ok, I get it, but I feel like something keeps holding me back.

I have been holding onto past memories with these people, knowing that we do not share these memories anymore. We desperately want to resurrect the past and enjoy the times we had. I guess I fear that if I let go, I may not experience these times again, but this is not true. Holding onto memories will only be a reminder that we need to let go. We should not hold ourselves back from welcoming new partnerships either. A part of me was also wishing that in the future we may reconcile. But to be honest, there is no point clinging onto the future either. Since, our happiness does not lie with the people in question. We create our own happiness.

Our ego can be our worst enemy, since it constantly reminds us of how it wants to feel appreciated and loved. For the ego to be happy, it feels better to hang onto any situation, which is not good for us. What the ego loves the most is to feel better than anyone else. But we are all equal on an even playing field. There is no such thing as superiority and inferiority. This is just a complex created by our loveable friend; our ego.

In this case, it’s not the person in mind you cannot let go of, but the ego making things very difficult to move forward. Once you accept that this is the case, it becomes easier for you to see the situation more clearly and objectively. You can manage and control the ego and it’s feelings. Avoiding the past does not help you move on. It instead makes you desire for things to stay the same. Acceptance will bring you peace and help you to view memories with positivity rather than sadness.

With regard to the future, the person may not be in it, but that is ok. You can still be happy and open to new adventures. When we cling onto the future, does it mean you would have been happy on that path? Everything happens for a reason. All the people we meet are there to teach us a thing or two about ourselves.

Dealing with the ego, whenever something does not work out, will make us feel bad about it so we blame ourselves incessantly. Now we have to control it to not allow it to get the better of us. The ego wants us to pick faults in others and envy them too. It is ok to accept when you have been wrong and to apologise. This shows that you have a moral compass. I have learnt that I am not perfect and I am certainly not always right. Taking responsibility for my mistakes has helped me. I am working working on the above and getting better. It is worth setting your mind on becoming content to quiet down the chattering of the ego.

There are ways in which you can move past. Release the negative feeling, which is attached to the person. This negativity is only affecting you and not the other person. In order to do this, you must connect with your subconscious and not your conscious brain. Last night, I wrote a number of letters explaining how I felt to each and every one of those people and read them back to myself then tore the letters up. I let go and received peace. This was therapeutic. I highly recommend it.

Get rid of objects, which remind you of the people causing you pain and free up space in your life for new people. Remember that you are doing this to help yourself move on. In order to avoid any further negative feelings, write down what you are looking for in your life and use this as a guide for new relationships. Focus on introducing good and new energy into your life. Write down what makes you happy and alive!

 

By Caroline Peart

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5 Ways To Help You Attract Good Things Into Your Life

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As we go through our daily lives, we sometimes do not take a step back and review what we have which makes us feel good. It is easier to dwell on what doesn’t make us feel good! Why is this so? We tend to find excuses when an aspect of our life does not go our way. I went through a period like this in my life where I was not attracting positive things towards me. We tend to forget that when we surround ourselves with positivity, we feel better and our perception of life changes for the better.

When we see others going through a positive time, we instantly compare ourselves with them and analyse every single detail. Then we will worry ourselves and wonder why this hasn’t happened to us. The behaviors mentioned above are not conducive to living a healthy and balanced life. Never compare yourself to others. You never know exactly what these people are going through.

As I mentioned in one of my previous pieces, your energy level can dictate what comes your way. The more we generate our level of consciousness and awareness, we will better understand our energy levels. If we generate positive vibes then the chances of good things happening will be much higher! This is a good start towards managing ones thoughts.

 

Practice gratitude

The moment you start to appreciate what you have, you will begin to view your life with a more open mind. Show appreciation to others. Recognise mistakes from past experiences. Enjoy what you currently have in the present. Acknowledge what you are grateful for. Write down what you are grateful for when you wake up. You will be able to deal with life better when you accept and appreciate what you have.

 

Be optimistic

Optimism generates high energy levels and points us in the right direction when it comes to achieving our goals. This helps us to see opportunities even when we are in difficulty. When we display this energy, anything will be possible. Life is too short to not be optimistic, since you do not know what is round the corner.

 

Find your purpose

Knowing exactly what you would like to do will help you attract good vibes. If you are unsure about what you want out of life, this can bring you closer to negativity rather than towards positivity. It took me a few years to find out exactly what I wanted to do. Lots of pain and fears were experienced during this time, but I do not regret going through this as it has helped me grow into the person I am today. Especially now, as I have finally figured out my purpose. We all become driven and determined when we have goals in mind. So if you are going through this, keep going.

 

Be more forgiving

In life, it’s not worth holding grudges against others even if it causes us pain. The best thing we can do is to let go and accept. I know it’s easier said then done but you will feel better for it. This can be in regards to events over which you have no control over. Don’t let this make you feel bitter. Instead, take the life lesson away and learn from it. Give yourself the opportunity to grow and develop. At the end of the day, only you are living your life, no one else!

 

Smile and realise there is no need for control

Smiling makes yourself and others feel instantly happy. We should all be smiling more since it’s great for our wellbeing. People who love to smile are drawn more to others. This is fact! Being in high spirits is awesome! Accept that in life there is no need for constant control.

 

By Caroline Peart

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We Only Have One Life So Dream Big

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We all go through life thinking a certain way; a way, which has been conditioned by our surroundings. The education we receive at home and at school makes up a great part of this. This can be referred to as social conditioning. For many of us, we generate dreams from an early age, but are led down a specific trajectory. This results in us forgetting the dreams we once had.

 

Once we go to school, we are drilled with this mentality to study a certain course, get this job and the list goes on…

Social conditioning has its negatives, since we are put under undue pressure and stress. We all have a creative outlet, but this is schooled out of us rather early on in life. This causes us to only think within the proverbial box as opposed to outside of it. This prevents us from generating big ideas and unleashing the creativity inside us.

The limiting box method of thinking is not very beneficial. At school we should be engaged to further our way of thinking beyond this limitation. We all have the capacity to be challenged and grow within all aspects of our life. This is why I highly recommend dreaming big.

 

What stops us from creating and thinking differently?

We worry too much about what others may think and become subject to cynicism. Thinking outside of the square should be valued not disregarded, since being different is the new cool! If you have the courage and feel inspired, go for it!

Below, I have put together some helpful tips to gather up the confidence to start you off on your journey towards generating big ideas:

 

Getting out of your comfort zone

This is a classic example for us all since we like to remain in the position where we feel most at home. But thinking intergalactic will not work if you cannot throw yourself outside of certain parameters. The fact still remains that, the moment we are exposed makes us fend for ourselves. This is a perfect opportunity to work on our weaknesses and improve aspects of our lives.

 

Finding your passion

If we listen to our hearts then we are most likely going to work harder as it will ignite the necessary fire for us to jump in. But as human beings we have the tendency to listen more to our ego then to our hearts. Our egos are not often right, which can cause devastating consequences.

 

Learning how to control emotions

Regardless of how big the dream may be, it is crucial to learn how to control our emotions. If we manage our emotions in the right ways when we face obstacles, then we will know how to respond in the appropriate way. I have realised that when my emotions got in the way, they prevented me from generating big ideas and formulating them.

 

Dreaming big helps us understand reality better

The moment you think of an idea which is extraordinary, you will think of how you can implement it. Immediately, you will start identifying the challenges and begin to look introspectively. We think of ways we can better ourselves to make ideas work so we eventually grow with the process. From the moment, I started generating big ideas. I looked inside myself more than ever before.

 

Becoming more persistent and determined

When we find an idea, which we believe has a lot of potential, then nothing can hold us back. All we can think about is how to make it work and turn into something successful. The present moment is very important to us and we will not waste time.

I was a procrastinator in the past, but I have now come out of this and I am finally focusing on what matters to me most. We should all chase after our dreams as only we can achieve them.

 

Tune into your intuition

Believe it or not, but your intuition can be your guide, especially in this situation. The more we tune in, the better we can make life decisions.

 

 

By Caroline Peart

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